What is Rape..........
Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse, which is initiated by one or more persons against another person without that person's consent. A person who commits an act of rape isknown as a rapist. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority or with a person who is incapable of valid consent. The term is most often defined in criminal law.
When I told others about my rape, an embarrassed silence felt like shame to me.
"I'm sorry is the best reaction."
Do not use phrases like:
"It could have been worse"
"Life goes on"
"What did you do to cause this?"
"It doesn't sound like it was a bad rape"
"I'm going to kill him"
"You are married to him so it can't be rape"
"Can we talk about something else, this is disgusting"
"I know him and he would never do that"
"Are you saying this for attention"
"If it was rape, why didn't you report it?"
"Why didn't you scream or fight?"
"But you went out on a date with him"
"Maybe if you didn't drink yourself into a stupor, this wouldn't have happened"
"You need to just get over it and move on"
Do use phrases like:
"I'm so glad you are here with me"
"I'm so glad you confided in me"
"It will take time, but you will get through this"
"I am here for you"
"What can I do to help?"
"Blame lies on the attacker"
"You didn't do anything wrong"
"Is there anyone I can call that you would like to share this
"I'll be by your side through it all if you need me"
"Rape is more than sex, it is a total violation"
"I've never been raped but as a woman I feel your pain"
Friends - Family - Students - Teachers - Doctors -
Care Givers - Law Enforcement
Don't react with anger, silence, avoidance, blame,
doubt or give bad advice
Please Don't....tell us